Do not take life for granted

Extreamly sorry to hear of you loss, sudden tragic and very painful for thoes who are left behind. I have friends that died in an auto accident, but we all went to the funral in cars. Fickle finger of fate. Our prayers are with you.

Randy

 

Ah Shit this sucks big time. I feel your pain in more ways than one, I'm lucky I'm still alive to feel, in fact 4 months today (Sheesh how time doesn't fly) I still have doubts and freak outs, it's human to do so. . Don't give up and make a hasty decision. Do not beat yourself up, it's just life at it's worse. you have a family that needs all the positive it can get now. know doubt the motorcycle contention hits hard, but you had nothing to do with what happen. just rejoice in the fact you two had great times Prayers to all around you. I wish you and your family the best, I know it's tough. Do not knock yourself into a hole. ( ha being said from me ) as I know just how hard it is not to beat yourself up first hand. But like all the great folks that have posted. Stay strong don't rush, breath, let it in, then let it go. The shitty part is it takes time. no way around it. Yes it's a crappy deal , but be true to yourself, he'd would of wanted it that way. a moment of silence

 

I tend to be aloof on this site. But my dear friend, I feel for you, your sister and her two kids. There is little else I can say that has not already been said here. I and a few others here have seen far more tragedy than one should when it comes to motor vehicles. Everything that happend in life, happens as a result of decisions made by someone. We have to live with the decisions we make and also must understand that the decisions we make, as you so rightfully pointed out, may have profound affects on others. Please don't just give up the riding. That may come, but give it some time. You will know what the correct avenue to take is after you have given it serious consideration. I must ask you though. What would Lance have said about your givng up the bike? Everyone mournes at a different pace. Pick your time and I would suggest a short ride in the near future. Just around the neighbourhood. Stop if need be. You will eventually find your answer.

I am not big on prayer but please believe me when I say I am very sorry.

 

Tragic news for sure Candy. Not much I can add that hasn't already been said, but wade through the sorrow...God is with you all.

Romans 8:28

Peace,

BZ

 

Take solice in in knowing he was most likely doing what he loved. Stuff happens and sometimes pretty fast. We need to remind ourselves we are human and prone to screwing up. I've trashed 5 bikes and wonder why I'm stil here. You need to go on with what's needed right now and then in a week or two get back on the bike and ride somewhere to clear your head and decide. Make sure you don't think about nothing other than riding before stopping and meditating. I'm sure he would want you to do this. He'll be watching you and smiling. We all need some angels from time to time.
I don't post much as I'm relatively new to VFR's, and not very religious. My church is on the road admiring what GOD created and thanking him for it. Ride on Brother!

 

I have felt far too much loss in the past year and I am truly sorry for your loss.
Do your best to take care of yourself and your family.

Godspeed, Rider.

 

My condolences, sir.

 

Sorry for your loss. Take time to heal, it will get better.

 

]I'm sorry for your lost,
If you decide to quit bikes it's your desition, altough I think you should wait some to time to do that,
My mother passed away in november 7th and last week a friend's mother is passed away too, So I know how it feel to loss a loving one,
Everyone in this forum loves bikes and I'm sure We all know about the risk of it, and stlll are driving our bike because we need them ( speak for my self)to feel alive, and because they are important in our life,.
I hope you are ok and recover soon...A prayer for your brother in law and the injured person....

 

Though we do not know each, other please accept my sincerest sympathy for the loss you and your family have suffered. 12 years ago I had to bury my oldest son on Christmas Eve. What I learned from the experience is God does not give us that which we are not equipped to handle, even though at the time it may seem he has. My prayers have already been said for your sister, her children, the rest of your family and the other rider. May God keep you and them close.

 

I have read all the replies, and pondered my own at length.

I agree with most here when I say that in my opinion you would be best to not make any decisions at this time. If the sight of your bike is currently inflaming an already incredibly difficult situation, I'd suggest that you move it to a friends place, or something similar. Move it out of your sight, and focus on the situation at hand; come back to the riding decision in the future, when you are able to see things without the current over-riding sorrow as a mental filter.

I cannot offer any more condolences, sadness, fellow feeling etc, than have already been voiced. I can however truly state that I have some idea of the sense of loss that you and yours feel. Hold each other, take each breath at a time, and comfort each other.

 

+1 to all those who have posted, and my deepest sympathy to you, your family, and the family and friends of the other person affected by this tragedy. As I have said many times to many people, you live by the sword, you die by the sword. With anything you love enough and have enough passion for this statement comes into play. I too am incredibly lucky to have survived my crash and have the support of my family and friends that I did. The frist thing I wanted to do after I realized that I was still breathing and in one piece was to get back on. In the weeks following as I healed I hoped that no one I knew would take my accident as a cue to stop doing something they loved, just be even more cautious and aware. Having not had the oppourtunity to meet or ride with him or yourself I can not say what he would think, or want, but he would probably not want anyone to give up what they love either. Take your time, the road will wait. I wish you and every one else reading this the best. May we never forget the ones we love no matter how they left us.

 

I truly am sorry.....

I have to say though I have to agree with a few others who beg the qustion: "Would Lance want you to stop riding." As a person who loves to ride I can tell you if I did something on my bike that resulted in my loss I would hope my Riding buddies would keep on loving "the ride."

"The Ride" is why we do it...We risk life and limb for "The Ride" It matters not if it is a VFR, Harley, or a Ducati... It's "The Ride" that is important... We motorcyclists achieve a higher plane of existence and meet a broad range of people from the self educated rider, to the lawyer, or doctor, on a bike... We overcome adversaty for the love of "The Ride" Clelebrate not Lance's death but celebrate the life that he lived.. Celebrate his love of "The Ride.." So often at funeral's they become a dour and we focus on the could haves and should haves... Focus on the life he lived... Feel lucky in the knowledge that he enjoyed "The Ride" with you and that you did with him as well.. Cherish those moments and celebrate them.

When we lose someone ot our passions we all reflect... Some of us may give up our passion in the face of the loss of a loved one... Sometimes though we look to our passion and work to make our passion safer and we live the moments with an even broader perspective than we had before... Honor Lance's passion not by giving it up or feeling bad about how he rode or how you may ride in the future... Honor him by enjoying and "living the Ride" as he probably would if you had switched places... By letting go of your shared passion you make him a statistic and not the friend that you lost...

Give it time Sir... Give it time.....

And to everyone else let's be carefull huh?

 

Sorry for your loss,i have a idea as to how you feel as i lost my brother to a riding accident June first.The riding for you is a personal choice for sure and one the you need to make on your own in your time not to others time lines . I myself never quit riding and even road 1 of his bikes to his funeral with about 70 others that knew 1 or both of us .He to left behind 2 kids that are close to my own .I am rebuilding his collection of bikes the way he dreamed of with help from his good friends and will give 1 to his son when hes older as to what my brother had mentioned just the day before he died . This may not be the way most would do things but riding became part of my life because of my brother and it was a way of life for him as he was a bike mechanic for years.
Take time to heal and go on from there with bikes or not only your heart can tell you what path to take.All the best to you and yours. Chuck

 

I can not understand how you feel, but I can come close I almost lost my life on a bike this summer. Deer strike. I too wanted rid of my bikes because I saw how much anguish this caused my entire family and the people I call friends. My wife stayed in the hospital without leaving my side for almost 3 weeks and I can not even imagine the courage this took. I even went as far as offering the bikes for sale on a local tv station. Fortunatly no one bought them because I really do love to ride and would have had to go buy new ones if the old ones would have sold. My point is---give it some time, way the risk. Are the risks involved in riding versus the pleasure you receive worth it or not. Right now in your life the answer is no, and perhaps it will always be no, but give it some time. I am sorry for you and yours. The loss of someone you love is the most difficult time we face and at times it can seem unbearable. Please accept my condolances and my prayers as a biker brother and a believer in our Lord. Once again I am sorry for your loss. wilburj

 

I apologize for the late reply, but please accept my sincerest condolences to you and your family. Even in this middle of this tragedy, you have already helped others by reminding us to always be careful, to think about what's truly important (our loved ones) and what a remarkable group of riders belong to this forum. I hope the sheer number of heart-felt replies you have received on this site (and all the countless silent ones as well) brings you some sence of joy during this horrific time in you life. Hope to see you on this forum, and on the road, in the future. Peace...